Not A Luxury… A Necessity

Most parents will agree, your life and marriage changes dramatically once you have kids. This is something people mention, but don’t really go into detail about. In order to keep my marriage whole, I try to plan as many date nights as possible. And when I say “I try to plan” it’s because, let’s be honest, do men know how to plan anything? Love you, honey.

So why are date nights so important?

  1. Communication.  For me, it is a time to reconnect with my husband and actually listen to what he is saying (even if I don’t want to… he knows by now that I am always right anyways). There are so many times we are having a conversation and get interrupted by our two year old. By the time she stops interrupting, we both forgot what we were even talking about in the first place.
  2. Relaxation. I don’t have to tell you that having kids is hard. You constantly have to be on your A-game. Having a date night away from my daughter means I don’t have to worry as much as I normally do, when I am responsible for her. Let’s be honest, I still worry, but just not as much.  It gives me a chance to relax, and the wine doesn’t hurt either.
  3. Rekindling the romance. Every time I go on a date with my husband, I remember why I fell in love with him in the first place. It is so easy to get caught up in the same old routine of life, so it is really nice to remember what brought us together.
  4. Setting an example. By going on date nights, we are teaching our daughter that relationships are important. The more she sees us going on date nights and wanting to spend time together, the more she will carry that into her own relationships. Growing up, I remember my parents having date night every Saturday night. For me, it was awesome because me and my siblings were usually babysat by our grandparents, who let us stay up late and eat whatever we wanted! It was a win-win! My parents got alone time and we got to do whatever we wanted LOL. I also got to see my parents wanting to spend time with one another. Now that I am married and have a daughter, I try to prioritize alone time with my husband.

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